Have you ever overheard someone talk about you when they thought you could not hear?
I did. Last Sunday. Standing in a hallway outside my father in law's kitchen with my coat still on and my keys still in my hand. William has never warmed to me. Ten years of marriage to his son Thomas and the man has barely said two direct words to me. He is not rude. Never has been. He is something harder to deal with than rude. He is perfectly polite in the way that keeps you at exactly arm's length without ever giving you anything to push back against. At Christmas he shakes my hand. On my birthday he nods at the card Thomas signs from both of them. At Sunday lunches he reads his paper until the food is on the table and then he eats quietly and says very little. Thomas always says that is just how his father is. That it is nothing personal. That William is like that with everyone. But I have watched him with Thomas's sister Grace. The way he lights up when she walks through the door. The way he laughs at things she says. The way he saves her the good chair without being ...